Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Saturday, June 19, 2021

The Divine Gift of Femininity

 


The divine gift of being feminine is inherent by nature, it’s in a woman’s biology. While we all take on our individuality and choose our path, the one thing women should not lose track of is the beauty that comes with feminism. When I say feminism I do not mean the movement to remove all that makes a women unique from men but the natural gift of being feminine. The natural gift to nurture, mother, protect, feed and care for all beings around us. The ability to put the needs of others in front of our own. The ability to entice a man with a beautiful smile, a sweet scent and a pretty dress.  One of things that my mother tried her hardest to bestow upon me was etiquette and being a lady. The modesty part was lost on me because I love being nude and find the body to be an art form but what wasn’t lost on me was the beauty of a women being a women and a man being a man.  I love cooking for a man and serving him the meal. I love setting a table to perfection. I love having a man open a door for me or lend me his hand while stepping out of a car. Nothing is more wonderful than a man gathering the hiking equipment while I make the picnic. It feels good to be in that space as a woman. There is a fluid exchange between the two genders that if left to nature will always endure any movement.  


Unfortunately women and feminism are under attack.  I remember when it was a big deal for a women to be a kicker on a men’s football team. Why? Because no matter what anyone proclaims men and women are not biological and structurally the same. A women’s body is built to bare children and a men’s body is built to protect, hunt and build. It’s not to say that a women can’t protect, hunt or build but there is in nature a difference in capabilities between a 5’2 woman and 6’ man.  While the man will never ever be able to carry and birth a baby, he will always be capable of lifting more than that 5’2 woman, why, because men and women were not meant to be biologically or structurally equal and that’s perfectly fine. It needs to be accepted. An apple can never be an Orange, even if you paint that orange red. We can call it an apple all we want but a rational mind knows the facts. The feminist movement I believe in doesn’t fight biology but fights actual discrimination against women, like firing or not hiring a women because she wants to bare children. If she’s capable of doing her job aside from maternity leave then what’s the problem!?  That issue simply doesn’t exist anymore. So what are they fighting for? 


What I do see is a huge problem in the feminist movement that wants to take away my rights as a biological woman to give trans women the equal rights to compete against biological women in the name of equality because it’s taking away women’s rights to compete against people who have the same biological capabilities as them.  It’s not equality, it’s injustice against women and in all honesty a mental health issue.  If men and women were biologically comparable to each other then why have men and women teams, why not merge the NBA to one league... how many women would be able to play? Not many because they aren’t biologically capable. It seems backwards to me to see trans women take on the feminine role and learn female etiquette and want by all means to be viewed as a woman but in the same breath want you to completely ignore the facts that make them biologically male, no matter what which means they will always have certain capabilities above the capabilities of a biological woman.  You can not change science to serve your agenda, which seems to involve convincing women it’s against the feminist movement to be feminine and embrace who you are biologically and build on that to be who or how you want to be without imposing on the rights of others. 


I will always instill in my child the inherent gender roles so that she understands her biology. How she chooses to break out of those roles is up to her but at her very core she will understand the beauty of what makes a woman a woman and what makes a man a man and how it’s up to her to be polite and respectful while stepping out of the box to achieve her goals as a person capable of anything. I have always succeeded in male driven industries because I brought something unique to the picture and used my strengths to achieve my goals without pulling a woman card because if you want to be treated with respect you do your job to the best of your capabilities as a person and you will succeed 99% of the time because the world is not set up to keep women down but the current feminist movement does just that. 







Thursday, July 9, 2015

Time is of the essence, choose your battles wisely!

            
As we develop in childhood thoughts of fairy tales of the life and timeline we should live are planted in our minds.  Growing up in the 80's there was still a sense of 1950's American values with girls being super girly, guys being super jocks, meeting your Prince in High School, going to prom together, going to college and then getting married. You buy a house and have 2 kids, work your butt off to go on a vacation each year and so on and so forth. The ideal life.  The rules for boys and girls still on the divide but being pushed for change. Movies like "Working Girl" and "9 to 5" showing young women that equality was on the horizon, if you continue to fight for it. The good hard working girl can have it all and men and women will be equals but then as life goes on you wonder but can we ever really be equals? How can we be equals, if we can't even be friends?   

Like the saying goes, Reality Bites!  There is one thing that will always be the road block for equality between man and woman and that is Sex!  When Harry turns to Sally and says "Men and Women can not be friends because the sex part always gets in the way!"  It's a fact! Sally says absolutely they can and in fact her and Harry will just be friends.... Fast forward to Sally and Harry in bed together. Its human nature. Why do we fight it?

I never wanted to believe it because as a young girl I was friends will so many guys but we were kids which means no sex which is why it was so easy.  Throughout my life I've tried to push this envelop in every which way, I've had great guy friends that were completely platonic but without fail, they find a girlfriend and suddenly it's frowned upon to go out with me solo. Why? because of sex!  It's simple. The girl whom my guy friend is having sex with said she's not comfortable with her boyfriend hanging out with a girl. So what happens to our friendship?  It becomes an acquaintance type relationship and I'm invited to group events where she is there. It's not because of anything other than its a better life choice for my guy friend to avoid the drama of trying to hang out solo.  

There comes a time in life where we realize how we want to spend our time. Do we want to spend it proving to our girlfriend who has self esteem issues and is jealous that we have every right to hang out with a girlfriend or do we pick our battles? 

We can choose to make our decisions based on our ideals of the world we wish we lived in or based on reality. When we choose reality we are not letting go of the change we want to see in the world, what we are doing is choosing to avoid the negative that comes with going against the reality of a situation. There is a time and place to prove your point and sometimes it's better to just be happy with what you are given.

Like me and my guy friends. Sure I miss our solo adventures and it's really not as much fun only seeing them at group events but we still have funny text sessions and I still get to see them. They are happy in their relationships and that is more important to me then making them prove some notion about men and women being friends. 

The fact that seems to always fall between the cracks is that Men and Woman have two completely different make ups both physically and mentally which means that the reality of the situation is that we will never be equal because we will always have different needs.  We can try our best to make things as fair as possible but it will never be perfect. The only thing we can do is  try to see the positive in every situation, push for change when the right opportunity arises and choose our battles wisely because we don't have that much time here and not everything has to be about proving a point. Remember, you're not losing your stance or ideals, if sometimes you choose to abide by the reality in life to avoid the drama of it! 


2013 - Me with a group of guys who will always be my friends- because they're all gay! Problem Solved! 

(*Ps. My best advice to the girls who can't grasp reality, get a gay bestie, they'll still want to play with your boobs but it's definetly a guy you can 100% just be friends with!)